The Poptart: food which defines my depression. I know there are 300 better things I can use to nourish my body, but there is something so comforting about the pre-portioned package that requires no work, has not changed since I was young. I had stomach problems for a long time, and I know this one food is always safe.
There's something to be said about the comfort of predictability. When things are gray, I know it's happening by the food I eat, the books I read, the sweaters I wear. Going back to something familiar - something that has brought me joy - is a small attempt at holding onto control. Because depression so often feels like the lack of control.
I wonder lately if I am sharing too much with the internet. Am I coming across as "too depressed" - whatever that means? It's refreshing to witness vulnerability and realness on the internet, but what happens when it's not just a season? When it's something chronic, a cloud you will carry with you even on the sunniest days. Does it become too heavy a burden to keep putting out into the world?
I pick up Hercule Poirot when I'm depressed - Agatha Christie's brilliant Belgian detective series. There are over 30 books in the series and it's a comfort knowing there are so many adventures to have with Poirot (until it's not and I think of the day where I've read each and every one). I like mysteries when I'm gray because it gives my mind a problem to focus on outside of myself. And again, it's predictable. Not the story or the puzzle itself, but the ending where everything is revealed and laid out bare. I like that there is closure. Answers. There is more beautiful writing in the world, but you have to hold close the things that bring comfort. There is so much I want to say about Poirot, but I don't have the words.
This week I started a new medication. My third attempt at bottled contentment. The symptoms of moving from one pill to another were startling, but not unforeseen. This time, though, it felt like there was electric wiring wrapped around my brain. I've since learned that these are called brain zaps or brain shivers, and they can happen when you are waning off an ssri. Scary, right?
I should clarify: I don't say 'bottled contentment' to be contrite. I believe mental illness is just as much of an illness as physical illnesses are, and it should be treated as such. Sometimes, it isn't a passing thing, and your body needs help. But I have always been averse to taking medication in pill form. I made it to age 14 before I took my first pill; I had pneumonia and the doctor told me I would have a seizure if I didn't take their pill. Then afterward, there was the z-pak. Before long, I had become a pill-taking person. There is something about medication that affects the brain - our mood, our personality, our thought patterns - that makes me uneasy. It seems too close to something too important. But then, couldn't that be said of heart medication? This uneasiness is a thought pattern I just can't shake. But there's the people I love and I want to be present in their lives. So, I'll put my faith in modern medicine (or at least try to) and take comfort in small predictabilities.